Monday, 19 February 2018

My Blogging Secrets.

So these things are not secrets as such but they are little things about blogging that I don't really verbalise.
I wanted to give you a little insight into my mind as a blogger.

So here goes!


Yep, it's true. I genuinely don't care about my photography. As you can probably tell.
I've come to accept that I'm just no good with cameras and I no longer pile on the pressure to be "up there" with the best. At one point I felt so desperately out of the loop and I was seeing so many posts on "Ways to improve your photography" and "Taking better quality photos" and hoped they would turn me into some sort of camera whizz but the truth is, my heart isn't in it. The best photos are taken when there is serious passion and enthusiasm behind the camera. I have such admiration for those who have the ability to pour their heart and soul into the images they take but I am not one of them.
I know this must lose me some brand collaborations etc but it really doesn't bother me.
The most I do is crop and brighten my photos.
Other than that I usually ask myself these questions:

Have I photographed everything I needed to?
Is the product in focus?
Is the image clear?



I have always written my posts the same way. I sit down, type them out and schedule them.
I occasionally go back and correct the way I've worded something but that's only on the off chance I read the post and spot the mistake or to edit links to stuff but if you check through my posts I'm sure you'll find an array of mistakes. There may even be one or ten in this post.
Unless there are obvious mistakes, I won't revisit the post at all.


The thought that a brand (regardless of how big or small) has approached me to work with my blog still amazes me. They have selected me and my little blog to represent them and that is bloody brilliant.
I have had the privilege of collaborating with some great brands including Jamberry, Jelly Belly, Amphora Aromatics and JML. Alongside that I have been lucky enough to receive books from many talented authors. I appreciate every single piece of blogger mail I receive and work hard to give them honest feedback either privately or publicly on here.
It's a great reward for working hard.


Now I don't want to sound ungrateful or by any means belittle the wonderful brands and people I have worked with in the past but I'd be lying if I said I don't get jealous when I see other bloggers receiving lots of blogger mail and large gifts from brands.
However this jealousy is limited to certain people. I am always so happy and supportive to those who have worked hard to build their following, encourage engagement across all platforms and write honest reviews providing great feedback. No, those people have worked so hard and they deserve to be spoiled!
What gets me is those that receive massive gifts from world renowned brands in return for a 4 line blog posts and a shoutout on social media. Those who have clearly bought a large percentage of their following, have very little engagement and don't really connect with others on any platform.
I think in reality I just hate brands choosing quantity over quality.


Okay so they aren't the be all and end all but in reality they are a little important if you're looking to collaborate with brands and get your name out there. I will say that there are many smaller brands out there that are willing to give bloggers with a smaller following a chance and they really are absolute gems. They're also the nicest people to work with hands down.
But generally the first thing PR companies ask for are your social media/blog stats.
On several occasions I have had people agree to collaborate with me and then change their minds because "my following isn't significant enough" (genuine words from a brand). I suppose this stems back to the quantity vs quality thing which makes everything 10x harder if you're a genuine, hard working blogger.
And aside from that, seeing low viewing figures and no comments is disheartening. It does make you question whether you're posting good content.
But f*ck worrying about numbers. We're worth so much more than that.


Following on from the stats thing I often feel like blogging is a lost cause for me because I don't really fit in. I am incredibly insecure in general so this isn't exclusive to my blog but I often feel like my content isn't what people want to see or read. Having bipolar doesn't help with that either. It makes me incredibly impulsive and there are days when I very nearly delete all my posts and social media pages.
I feel like it doesn't meet the standard of blogging these days. The blogging world can be incredibly competitive and you do have to fight for your place. It's like I'm the teeniest fish in a massive ocean.

Then I look at all the lovely comments I've had about my blog (I screenshot them all) and I think about all the people who have reached out to me and told me they've been touched by my blog.
That is what it's all about. My content is perfectly valid and has earned its place.
I'm more than entitled to have my say and let my voice be heard regardless of who may or may not be listening.


Well at least I did.
Up until recently I never spoke about blogging to my family let alone shared a link. The reason that changed is due to the passing of my dear uncle. I wrote a very raw and open post about losing him and I wanted to give my family the opportunity to read it as it included them.
(You can give it a read too if you'f like (click here)).
But up until then I had kept it all very private. I don't know if they ever found the links themselves but I never actively shared any with them. I guess I was scared of letting them in to the place where I am most honest about who I am and what I think/like/do.
I felt like it was as if they were reading my diary but now I couldn't care less.


Everyone talks about self hosted and switching to Wordpress but in all honesty I just can't handle all that. I don't even use Google Analytics because it's too much work. I just appreciate the simple things and Blogger works for me. I'm happy with my layout and format.
I'm a basic bitch. I hate over complicating things. If it ain't broke don't fix it.

Do you have any blogging secrets you want to share?


Thursday, 8 February 2018

The Sunshine Blogger Award.

Guess who was nominated for a blogger award?

(Spoiler: It's me..obviously)


I was nominated for the Sunshine Blogger Award by Natalie who runs the blog Parchment & Pencils so a big thank you to her!

Monday, 29 January 2018

Pink Parcel Subscription Box: Is It Worth It?*

There are a lot of subscription boxes floating about and finding the right one for you can be a challenge but ladies, this box is a good'un. This box is practical, pretty and perks you right up.

"January might be here but the blues are not"

Sunday, 31 December 2017

Staying Organised in 2018*

In the last couple of years I have become an incredibly disorganised person. I'm forever losing letters, forgetting about appointments (thank god for text/email reminders!) and essentially, I'm just all over the place.

I have come to rely on a diary to keep me in check and to generally keep up with life etc.
I was lucky enough to be sent two amazing diaries this year and I wanted to tell you a little bit about them because they're both wonderful.

Saturday, 30 December 2017

Grieving For Yourself.

Do you ever sit there and wonder what your life would have been like if mental illness didn't dig it's claws in?
Fantasize about what could and should have been?

This is something I know all too well.
That constant ache for what has been lost.
The pain you feel when you realise that life is gone and things will never be the same.

It is grief.
Something has been lost.
Someone is gone forever.
That someone is you.